Guess im just asking for the heck of it.. but.. I have only had 4 gf my whole life(in real life anyway) and they have all left me.. and every single time one of there reasons was.. "Your to nice.. your more of a friend then a lover"

Why is being to nice a bad thing in a relationship..?

Why does it seem like nice guys always get screwed over.. like my friend a week ago.. he asked me if i wanted anything at the store.. so i gave him some money for some chips and stuff.. and he never came back.. then today he says "Oh sorry.. i spent that on gas.." Why do nice guys always get taken like that?

Why is it that mean/jacka**es always seem to get there way.. while the nice ppl get spit on..?

*sighs* idk if anyone has a answer.. i just felt like typing this... >.>

i have no idea they mite think ur wierd no ethense.

Because most girls like complete assholes. And usually people that are too nice let people walk all over them. Many girls see that as a sign of weakness.
But not every girl is like this. Some appreciate the nice guys. I'm proud to say that I've been with a nice guy for over 2 years now and we're still going strong.

Well nice guys get screwed over because they can be screwed over.

And now I started thinking since I'm quite a nice guy too. There's really nothing to do about it I guess. You just have to be happy whatever happens. Worrying about stuff is pointless.

well in truth girls are imature they want the tough guys fomr like 13 to the age 25 and these relateshoinships dont tendto last that long and the guys either go no where with there life and are pinning the girl down are at some point a girl matures and stops going for the bad guys and go for good guys when you think about it they remeber the birthdays the aniversary make most of the money less likely to cheat and maybe better with kids

I dont think it has anything to do with being nice. I am very nice and polite and I have been having a girlfriend for almost 2 years now.

Then you're really lucky maybe! Have you thought of that?

Nice guys finish last yes, you have to be assertive! All the girls you have had have put you into the friend's zone because you are banking on what they do, you have to make the moves and be assertive.

BTW, if your friend is using you for money then he should not be a friend you have.

You have to show that you are the one the girl will be losing, and if she wants to leave then thats her loss.
This post has been modified on Jun 09 , 2008 08:31:21 AM by MMOCrazy.

Because bad guys cheat to win. Your typical 'bad boy' has something to offer that most nice guys can't, a thrill, some excitement.

When it comes down to it, the nice guys have longer relationships though.

Maybe it's because said "bad boys" want it more, or at lest act like it. My father allways said "The ones who are going to get what they want are those who want it most"

That doesn't mean you should act like a jerk, but put more passion in your goals.

What most nice guys have is a tendency to think too much of the girl's feelings. They are submissive and lack the initiative and assertiveness to act on their own desires. Girls want men with confidence who can be reliable and do things on their own accord. Nice guys don't do that and give off a sense of helplessness.

Sounds like some of you are talking about shy guys rather than nice guys, though those traits seem to often be closely linked I guess.

A lot of girls like guys who are confident in themselves without being arrogant, and don't even have a problem with shyness - just that sometimes if a guy is too shy, they don't make their feelings known, or try too subtly, so often it's missed.

And hey, just because you're nice doesn't mean you can't joke around and tease - it may be that you seem too rigid if you are trying too hard to make sure you don't say the wrong thing.

In my opinion though, nice guys are the best ^^

It really depends what society you are from.

In my society, my friends/ex girl friends always go for "Someone who will stick up for them", and not a person who gets pushed around a lot.

I think also, "Your too nice, i'd rather be friends" Is a nice way of breaking up.

Did u have sex with her? did u tried?

if not , then thats what she means by being 2 nice.

A relationship wont work without sex.


Im a nice person and there hasnt been a girl yet that have left me for being too nice, i have had 7 gfs , Im always the one to break up with em.

( not trying to be macho here ) just saying the truth

i donno why you got so screwed up but
i just know being nice is good
and being tough is good
so i would say be nice and be tough its possible coz i am like that
btw add me to your msn people ill tell you how to be one like that
robik_xp@hotmail.com

My friend who's a really nice guy says it's because they finish best. You go with the nice guy later after your done with all the crummy guys out there & you stick with them the longest so thats why they finish last.

He's a romantic to which I think is fantastic so few guys are like that these days. I've read some of the stuff he writes & there so wonderful. It's a shame I don't have someone who would write them to me. Maybe one day?

On top of that he so gorgeous he doesn't even have to dress up to look good. I think I'd always go with someone like him over anyone else.

P.S not all nice guys are helpless or defense less. I know my friend that I mentioned above can & will throw a punch if he has to I have seem him fight he knows Maui Thai as well. Don't underestimate the nice guys out there it might just backfire on you big time.
This post has been modified on Jun 14 , 2008 01:19:25 AM by cutter6315.

Dunno ey

Got no idea

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Originally Posted by umi505



I do not think bad boys want anything more. If you want something you do not just chuck it to the side so soon after you wanted it. Bad boy means your dumped soon after usually within the first 3 years if not sooner. A nice guy really wants you & will stay with you for decades. Now what you have to ask yourself when you go out with a bad boy is do you want to be dumped like some useless trash or do you want someone that will really want you for the long haul?

If your like me you pick the nice guy my current partner & I have been together for 12 years & it doesn't look like where going to finish up anytime soon. Thats more then 1/2 of my life as I am 22 right now.


My advice is if you get a chance at a nice guy go for it & let him know that you like him to it will help it might just be one of the smartest things you ever did.
This post has been modified on Jun 14 , 2008 01:55:05 AM by nerbne.

Going out with a bad boy is like asking to get aids, asking to get involved with drugs, asking to get beaten & other horrible things all at once. Then you will probably get dumped by them like others have said as they usually don't really give a stuff about you unlike the nice guys. So your really stuffing up your own life.

If I was a girl I would wait for the nice guy rather then going with the bad boy or I'd be a Lesbian.
This post has been modified on Jun 14 , 2008 02:41:07 AM by assasingaru234.